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Trust in the Lord

“God will take you as you are at this very moment and begin to work with you. All you need is a willing heart, a desire to believe, and trust in the Lord.”

Dieter F. Uchtdorf

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 My three little sons are now men.

When they were young, I pleaded with God that He would work miracles and sand off the many rough edges.

They seemed to be far from “the mark” AND my mothering was also a bumpy imperfect “work in progress”.

Not a good combination.

But, like always, He comes through for ALL of us.

And He continues to work with all of us.

 Now, they are men with willing believing hearts and they trust in the Lord.

My plea now is that they may always stay this way.

God does work miracles if we just let Him.

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Alone with JuBean

Tonight I was alone with JuBean and it felt kind of eery.

Everyone was gone from about 4:00-10:30.

Everyone except me and JuBean.

I was wondering what to do with just the two of us.

I folded some laundry…

I made dinner for one and a half…

I moved the sprinkler around the lawn to water the dry spots.

The house was so quiet and calm and settled.

It felt so lonely. And then I started to feel lonely.

Quickly, I was pulled away by JuBean to go outside and jump on the tramp.

That is something I haven’t done in a long time.

So I took the time tonight and just played with my baby.

It felt so good.

We danced to music, played chase and had a bum war. JuBean is quite good at that game.

Then as the dawn sky started to reveal the stars, we laid down and looked at the heavens.

What will it be like when it really is just JuBean and myself?

Life will be so different from these whirlwind years of raising 8 children and having a very busy husband.

Will I be able to handle so much quiet and time for myself?

Finally, one child came home, then two more. Then EB showed up and I felt better.

I loved my alone time with JuBean, but time like that doesn’t happen very often.

I know that it will be the norm some day but for today…

give me the hustle and bustle and the sweet feeling of family chaos.

It’s all I know.

See Others as They May Become

 As a less than perfect mother, I can get a bit cranky as I deal daily with my less than perfect children.

 There is so much to teach these wonderful people I live with and in so little time.

And I’m not just talking just about academics or how to brush your teeth.

Are they getting the memo that they will have their own lives one day, some sooner than later, and that they will be the one in charge of their destiny?

Are they understanding with clarity that ONE day they will be the captain of THEIR ship?

As always, I was given food for thought from a prophet of God, Thomas S. Monson, in a talk he gave at General Conference, October 2012. (Link below)

His words helped me breathe a bit deeper and change my perceptions to start fresh and encourage my children even more today.

I need to relax and enjoy this “mothering” ride and do my best to be the kind of mother that gives her children what they desperately need…

LOVE … ACCEPTANCE …  and HOPEFUL PERSPECTIVE.

My thoughts:

**Look up and beyond the now at what they can and will become!

**I would only hope those who deal with my imperfections would do the same with me.

**Have vision of their potential for the most important people in our lives.

**Don’t get frustrated with the daily mistakes and rough edges we mothers witness on a continual basis.

**SEE THEM AS THEY CAN BECOME.

**TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT FOR WHO THEY ARE NOW.

Here is the General Conference talk, entitled “See Others as They May Become”.

(This article was written for young men and men, but I think it also applies to Mother’s raising children, especially sons.)

To end, here is a small make-you-smile story from that talk.

“During the 1940s and 1950s, an American prison warden, Clinton Duffy, was well known for his efforts to rehabilitate the men in his prison. Said one critic, “You should know that leopards don’t change their spots!”

Replied Warden Duffy, “You should know I don’t work with leopards. I work with men, and men change every day.”

One Last Week

All five sons 2006

All five sons 2006

My third son, JQ, is leaving next week and won’t be home for two years.

I have one last week with him and then he is gone to be “all grown up”.

Getting his mission call

Getting his mission call

In my patriarchal blessing it said my children would “grow up around” me.

I HAVE LOVED EVERY SECOND OF THAT “GROWING UP“.

It has been such a blessing to have my JQ here around me, almost 24/7.

He seriously has been such an easy son to love and to raise.

 JQ, thank you for that.

Our little Sumo Baby

Our little Sumo Baby

Love the hat and slippers!

Love the hat and slippers!

One of my favorites of little JQ

One of my favorites of little JQ

A Mother's day gift when JQ was in nursery

A Mother’s day gift when JQ was in nursery

I mean, I wouldn’t mind him staying another 18 years, 24/7 around me.

Really… I wouldn’t mind.

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But as everyone agrees, JQ would mind.

I pray when he gets home in two years, and he is finding his way in life

JQ’s way will be very close to our way.

I love our JQ.

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Fragile Day

I am so worn down. I am fragile…no sleep…no JS time…no cave time to figure out game plan to keep my plates spinning.  I run from one fire to the next–my body is in stress mode all the time and my adrenals are shot. THEREFORE I am unable to emotionally handle things like I could before.  BUT GOOD NEWS—I am growing big muscles for the future.

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